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fure there are moments when he poffefs all that is aliuring to the would wish to confult, to advise with, without any thing to recommend to be advised but it is in vain he them to the mind. They are taught looks for any of this in fuch a wo- to confider themselves as beings deman as your correfpondent draws: pendent upon the wantonnefs of man, fhe is merely a paffive inftrument: and they are early inftructed in the the never afpires to the dignity of arts that are fuppofed neceffary to thinking: the embarks her temporal enfnare our capricious fex. welfare in the veffel of matrimony, confequence of this is, that we regard but commits its guidance through them precifely as they are; feast our life's boisterous fea to the difcretion of fenfes at the expenfe of our hearts her bufband: there are men, indeed, and happinefs; and when thole whom fuch humble acquiefcency can fenfes are cloyed with fatiety, wake pleafe, and whofe poor ambition is to a conviction of our own decepgratified by the fuperiority which this tion. deferential conduct implies. Such beings would certainly choofe a wife of your correfpondent's recommen

dation.

The tendency of knowledge to refine the character and expand the feelings needs no illuftration from my pen. An ambiguously honest action performed by a poor man is admired in him, because he is uneducated; while, if the fame action were done by a fcholar and a gentleman, it would be regarded without praife or admiration. Why a cultivated mind in a female should be fuppofed incompatible with the feminine charac ter, I am at a lofs to conceive: why the virtues that are peculiar to the fex would not be illuftrated and even enforced by the liberal feelings of education, it would be difficult to fhew. All pleafure leans upon our fellow creatures a bauble becomes eftimable in our eyes if the world delight in it and a man will feel a higher gratification in the company and poffeffion of his wife, when his own opinions of her are echoed back by fociety.

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It is not virtue, wisdom, valour, wit, Strength, comeline's of fhape, or ampleft

merit,

That woman's love can win or long inherit."

When the romantic ardour of love fubfides, reafon affumes her fway, and with her return would come a rational and durable affection, were there food for it. But, when perfonal delights are over, what gratifica tion can we find in the tame virtues of a woman whofe knowledge does not extend beyond the economy of a houfe, and whofe converfation can not foar above the level of common events? The tie that held a man and woman before, and a short while after, marriage, being foapped afun der, no new one fucceeds: the body palls upon the fenfe; the mind is terile: finail errors are magnified into vices in thofe we ceafe to efteem: afperity of language enfues, and this begets all thofe fruitful curfes of the conjugal ftate, which fo many have had caufe to lament.

I need not here add that I fpeak of an accomplished woman in a liberal fenfe of the word; not as your cor refpondent invidiously defcribes her, a female pedagogue; but a woman whofe mind has been enlarged by

The general infelicity of marriage is proverbial. Were I afked to affign a caufe for this, I thould, without hesitation, fay that it fprings from, reading, and whofe converfation, the defective education which our females receive, They are tricked out merely as objects of fenfe: they are like falhionable toys, that

confequently, is capable of proving a fource of entertainment to a rational man: a woman who is fo far trom feeling her domeftic duties impeded by

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his cultivation of intellect, reckons t one of them to render herfelf the riend and companion of her husband, s well as his nurse, his cook, and is housekeeper: a woman in fact, who has qualified berfelf for this doule capacity, by the strong direction f common fenfe.

I approve fome part of your corefpondent's effay: I approve of the icture he draws of the fphere of a domestic woman, and the blifs he is nabled to thed around her: I deteft as much as he does, fuch a character is FAUSTINA; but what I cenfure s, that he should feem to exclude the mind of woman from a component part of her qualifications; and to center every thing that is needful to man's happinets in the conjugal ftate, n poffeffing one of thofe good fort of wives, as they are placidly termed; he variety of whofe attractions, and he sphere of whofe powers, are feen n the courfe of one rifing and fetting un. This is an error, and a danger

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Rules and Maxims for promoting

Matrimonial Happiness.

THE likelieft way either to obtain good hufband, or to keep one io, is o be good yourself.

Never ufe a lover ill whom you letign to make your husband, leit he hould either upbraid you with it, or eturn it afterwards; and if you find, any time, an inclination to play e tyrant, remember thofe two lines truth and juftice :

ently fhall those be rul'd, who gently fway'd; [obeyed. bject fall thofe obey, who haughty were Battle of the Sexes.

Avoid, both before and after mar age, all thoughts of managing your elband. Never endeavour to detive or impofe on his under flanding,

nor give him uneafinefs, (as fome do very foolishly to try his temper); but treat him, always before-hand with fincerity, and afterwards with affection and refpect. /

Be not ever fanguine before marriage, nor promife your felf felicity without alloy; for that is impoffible to be attained, in the prefent ftare of things. Confider, before hand, that the perfon you are going to spend your days with, is a man, and no angel; and if, when you come together, you difcover any thing in his humour or behaviour that is not altogether fo agreeable as you expect, pafs it over as a human frailty; fmonth your brow, compofe your temper, and try to amend it by chearfulness and good nature.

Remember always, that whatever misfortunes may happen to either, they are not to be charged to the ac count of matrimony, but to the accidents and infirmities of human life; a burden which each has engaged to alift the other in fupporting, and to which both parties are equally expoled. Therefore intlead of mur-. murs, reflections and difagreement, whereby the weight is rendered abundantly modegrievous, readily put your fhoulder to the yoke, and make it

eatier to both.

Refolve every morning to be chearful and good-natured that day; and if any accident thould happen to break that refolution, fuffer it not to put you out of temper with every affair befides, and efpecially with your hufband.

Difpute not with him, be the occation what it will, but much rather deny yourfelt the trivial fatisfaction of having your own will, or gaining the better of an argument, than nik a quarrel, or create a heart-burning, which it is impoffible to know the end of.

Be affured a woman's power, as well as happiness, has no other foundation but her husband's efleem and

love; which, confequently, it is her undoubted intereft by all means poffible to preferve and increafe. Do you, therefore, ftudy his temper, and command your own; enjoy his fatisfaction with him, thare and footh his cares, and with the utmoft diligence conceal his infirmities.

Read frequently, with due attention, the matrimonial fervice; and take care, in doing fo, not to overlook the word OBEY.

In your prayers, be fure to add a claufe for grace to make a good wife; and at the fame time refolve to do your utmost endeavours towards it.

Always wear your wedding ring, for therein lies more virtue than is usually imagined: if you are ruffled unawares, affaulted with improper thoughts, or tempted in any kind against your duty, caft your eyes upon it, and call to mind who gave it you, where it was received, and what paffed at the folemn time.

Let the tenderness of your conjugal love be expreffed with fuch decency, delicacy, and prudence, as that it may appear plainly and thoroughly diftinct from the defigning fondness of a harlot.

Have you any concern for your own ease, or for your husband's efteem? then have a due regard to his income and circumftances in all your expences and defires; for if neceffity fhould follow, you run the greatest hazard of being deprived of both.

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Let not many days pafs together without a ferious examination how you have behaved as a wife; and if upon reflection you find yourself guilty of any foibles or omiffions, the best atonement is, to be exacly careful of your future conduct.

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The Gauls being reduced, the captain was fought after to be punished; but he had hid himself in a vault, or cave. which was the monument of his grandfather, and caufed a report to be fpread of his death, as i he had voluntarily poisoned himfelf; and the better to perfuade men of the truh of it, he caufed his houfe to be fit on fire, as if his body had herein been burned. He had a wife, whole name was Epopina: fhe knew nothing of his falety, but bewailed his death with inconfolable grief; there were only two of his freed men who were privy to it, who pitying their lady (being determined to die, and who had therefore abstained from food for three days together), declared her purpose to her husband, and be fought him to fave her who loved him fo well. It was granted; and fhe was told that her Sabinus lived. She went to him in the tomb, where they lived undifcovered for many years, during which time he had iëveral children in that folitary man fion. At laft the place of their abode came to be known; they were taken and brought to Rome, where Velpafian commanded they should be flain. Epopina then producing her children, faid-Behold, O Cæfar! thefe chi dren whom I have brought forth and bred in a monument, that thou nighteft have more fuppliants for our lives." But the cruel Velpafian could not be moved with fuch words as thefe they were both led to death, and Epo pina joyfully died with her husband, with whom he had been buried for fo many years before.

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The Shamrock of Auguft-A Rural Chaplet for the Cambrian Prince. OUR fhamrocks feem to have a natural propenfity to lift their afpiring heads, so as to court the notice of the great and powerful. Hence we preume to celebrate the heir apparent to he throne of these kingdoms, this great prince having by his numerous ccomplishments attracted the univerfal regard of these nations. Beloved by the royal family, refpected by the nobility, revered by the people, we can pretend to nothing more, in this eulogy, than to reiterate the public fentiments in his favour. The Cambian chief is not one of thofe weak princes, whom grandeur intoxicates, or flattery feduces; he affociates freely with diftinguithed characters, who have him frequently at their tables, where he is always, from fuavity of manners, as well as fuperiority of lineage, the primary object of confideration; while his vigorous understanding enables him clearly to difce between the fincerity of the hoeft man and the hypocrify of the fyco. plant. Poffeffed of the fineft feelings of humanity, he has always a tear for the unfortunate, while he relieves indigent merit with munificent liberali ty: his royal highness is remarkably attached to his friends, and for enemies he has none, because he never offends any one. Dear to him is the fpirit of liberty which glows in every British bofom; and our happy conftitution, which is its refult, he juftiy confiders as the perfection of political eftablishments, and the beft fecurity of his own rights. Valour characterizes the family from whence he fprung; and if we have never perceived him, like the eldeft fons of fome of the former kings of England, covered with laurels in the plains of battle, this proceeds from a modern regulation of policy, which prevents the heir apparent from mingling with combatants. With fo many adinirable qualities to recommend the

Cambrian prince, there is no wonder he fhould be a peculiar favourite of the fair fex, nor will a liberal morality condemn the fon of a king for accepting favours of the kind, which it would not concede to meaner mortals; bnt it is neceffary now his feelings in this particular thould converge, and the beautiful and illuftrious princefs to whom he is married exclufively poffefs his heart. We fincerely be lieve the British court to be the pureft, as it is the most fashionable, refined, elegant, brilliant and delightful in the world; notwithstanding this profound deference, we cannot pretend to reconcile every matter about the court of London with our ruftic notions of propriety; we are however of opinion the prefent example from the throne ought to have a preponderating influence on the prince of Wales, in reconciling him to live with his virtuous princefs. Reasoning from analogy, we may believe this will one day be the cafe, for he has already proved himself one of the best of fons: indeed nothing in his auguft character is more commendable in itself, or more acceptable to the good people of these countries, than his filial piety or political modefty. During fome critical exigencies of the prefent reign, he never difcovered the leaft propenfity to govern, but on the contrary, always behaved towards his majefty, and his minifters, with the most dutiful attention and the most invariable honour. And to have waited thus on the time of providence, in bringing his royal highness regularly and happily to the throne, will, we are convinced, ever afford to his fufceptible mind the pureft fatisfaction, when that time thall ar rive. In natural affection alfo the prince is truly exemplary, both with respect to the royal dukes his valiant and accomplished brothers, and with regard to the princeffes his incomparably charming and divinely amiable fifters. We hope we thall enjoy the vigilant and profperous government of

his

his majefty for many years yet to come, and look forward with confident expectation to a continuation of fimilar bleffings, under the adminiftration of his fon, when he thall become George the fourth.

On Virtue.

VIRTUE confifls in rational behaviour; the divine, law is its guide, and the divine approbation its end. That behaviour which promotes the happiness of others, feems to have most virtue in it; tho', undoubtedly, the conduct which conduces to our own perfonal good is alfo virtuous. We fubmit to inftruction in youth, in order to qualify ourselves for our intended employments in manhood; and with the fame view we endeavour, by exercife and fobriety, to preferve our health and reason, which are neceffary to the proper difcharge of our focial obligations. Moral fentiments belong to our frame as rational beings: thus we approve of juftice in a magiftrate, loyalty in a fubject, integrity in a merchant, generofity in a matter, and honesty in a fervant. Our fituations point out our duties, and when we fulfil them, we are virtuous. The application of moral fen, timents, however, is not fo eafy as the theory, whether the difficulty be owing to the imperfection of matter, or the incapacity of our preceptors.With reafon and confcience, we poffefs a number of ardent paffions: the latter were given us to affift the former in the right conduct of life, but through our own indifcretion they fometimes fail in the execution of their office. As our Maker defigned this world for a state of trial, there can be no impeachment of his goodness, that we thould be expofed to temptations herein, having given us fufficient ability to refift them, and having made the encouragements to virtue naturally fronger than the allurements to vice. Fit, the practice of virtue gains us

the esteem of our fellow-citizens
which contributes fo materially to o
intereft and tranquillity. Bad as the
world is, nothing gains a man fo much
credit with the public as moral worth:
it is the foundation of his refpectab
lity, and in proportion as he is good
he will be honoured and countenance
There may indeed be exceptions o
this, as well as to many other general
rules; but, for the most part, honour
is the reward of merit, even in this
world. Secondly, befides the advan
tages which moral goodnefs procurs
us from without, it also contributes
most effentially to our felicity within,
by the delightful fenfations which the
practice of it excites in our minds
The remunerations of this kind, which
accompany exemplary manners, con
fift not in tranfitory Hlathes of minh,
but in fpiritual documents of enjoy-
ment,-hence virtue is its own re-
ward: wherein the benignity of our
gracious Creator fhines with confp-
cuous luftre, that what conftitutes
the chief ingredient of our happines
fhould not be a hard task, but a fatis-
factory duty. None have fo much
caufe to be cheerful and intrepid as
the righteous; they are the flaves of
folly, who ought to be dejected, aud
to tiemble.-Thirdly, virtue will ter-
minate in everlafting felicity, a con.
fummation which appears probabie
from reafon, and is rendered certain
by divine revelation. The joys of
heaven will be found great as the love
of God in the gift of his Son, incon
ceivable as the friendthip of the Re-
deemer, and immutable as the divine
dominion. There will be truth with-
out falfehood, love without diffimula-
tion, pleafure without pain, immorta-
lity without limitation, and every per-
fection without its oppofite. Thes
the motives to a good life infiniteiv
outweigh the temptations to the con
trary. Animated by tuch confidera-
tions, let us perfevere in the paths of
wifdom, as well as over the rugged
road of adverfity as amid the fimiling

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