the distinction he will meet with, and encourage him still more to merit it), than the best rules that can be given him for that purpose.

I will therefore teach the little dear courteousness and affability, from the properest motives I am able to think of; and will instruct him in only one piece of pride, that of being above doing a mean or low action. I will caution him not to behave in a lordly or insolent manner, even to the lowest servants. I will tell him, as I do my dear Miss Goodwin, That that superiority is the most commendable, and will be best maintained, that is owing to humanity and kindness, and which is grounded on the perfections of the mind, rather than on the accidental advantages of fortune and condition: That, if his conduct be such as it ought to be, there will be no occasion to tell a servant that he will be observed and respected: That humility, as I once told my Miss Goodwin,* is a charming grace, and most conspicuously charming in persons of distinction; for that the poor, who are humbled by their condition, cannot glory in it, as the rich may; and that it makes the lower ranks of people love and admire the highborn, who can so condescend: whereas pride, in such, is meanness and insult, as it owes its boast and its being to accidental advantages; which, at the same time, are seldom of his procuring, who can be so mean as to be proud: That I would even sooner forgive pride in a low degree than in a high; for it may be a security in the first against doing a base thing: But in the rich, it is a base thing itself, and an impolitic one too; for the more distinction a proud mind grasps at, the less it will have; and every poor despised person can whisper such a one in the ear, when surrounded with, and adorned by, all his glittering splendours, that he was born, and must die, in the same manner with those whom he despises.

Thus will the doctrine of benevolence and affability, implanted early in the mind of a young gentleman, and duly cultivated as he grows up, inspire him with the requisite * See p. 276.

conduct to command respect from proper motives; and at the same time that it will make the servants observe a decorum towards him, it will oblige them to have a guard upon their words and actions in the presence of one, whose manner of education and training-up would be so great a reproach to them, if they were grossly faulty: so that hereby, as I conceive, a mutual benefit will flow to the manners of each, and his good behaviour will render him, in some measure, an instructive monitor to the whole family.

But permit me, sir, to enlarge on the hint I have already given, in relation to the example of parents, in case a preference be given to the home education. For if this point. cannot be secured, I should always imagine it were best to put the child to such a school as I have taken the liberty to mention.* But yet the subject might be spared by me in the present case, as I write with a view only to your family; though you will remember that while I follow Mr. Locke, whose work is public, I must be considered as if I was directing myself to the generality of the world: for, sir, I have the pleasure to say, that your conduct in your family is unexceptionable; and the pride to think that mine is no disgrace to it. No one hears a word from your mouth unbecoming the character of a polite gentleman; and I shall always endeavour to be very regardful of what falls from mine. Your temper, sir, is equal and kind to all your servants, and they love you, as well as awfully respect you: and well does your generosity, and bountiful and considerate mind, deserve it of them all. And they, seeing I am watchful over my own conduct, so as not to behave unworthy of your kind example, regard me as much as I could wish they should; for well do they know that their beloved master will have it so, and greatly honours and esteems me himself. Your table-talk is such as persons of the strictest principles may hear and join in. Your guests and your friends are, generally speaking, persons of the genteellest life, and of the best manners: * See p. 308.

so that Mr. Locke would have advised you, of all gentlemen, had he been living, and known you, to give your children a home education, and assign these and still stronger reasons for it.

But, dear sir, were we to speak to the generality of parents, it is to be feared this would be an almost insuperable objection to a home education. For (I am sorry to say it) when one turns one's eyes to the bad precedents given by the heads of some families, it is hardly to be wondered at that there is so little virtue and religion among men. For can those parents be surprised at the ungraciousness of their children, who hardly ever show them that their own actions are governed by reasonable or moral motives? Can the gluttonous father expect a selfdenying son? With how ill a grace must a man who will often be disguised in liquor, preach sobriety? A passionate man, patience? An irreligious man, piety? How will a parent, whose hands are seldom without cards or dice in them, be observed in lessons against the pernicious vice of gaming? Can the profuse father, who is squandering away the fortunes of his children, expect to be regarded in a lesson of frugality? 'Tis impossible he should, except it were that the youth, seeing how pernicious his father's example is, should have the grace to make a proper use of it, and look upon it as a sea-mark, as it were, to enable him to shun the dangerous rocks on which he sees his father splitting. And even in this best case, let it be considered how much shame and disgrace this thoughtless parent ought to take to himself, who can admonish his child by nothing but the odiousness of his own vice; and how little it is owing to him, that his guilt is not doubled by his son's treading in his steps! Let such an unhappy parent duly weigh this, and think how likely he may be, by his bad example, to be the cause of his child's perdition, as well as his own, and stand unshocked and unamended, if he can!

Give me leave to add, that it is then of no avail to wish for discreet servants, if the conduct of the parent is faulty.

If the fountain-head be] polluted, how shall the undercurrents run clear? That master and mistress, who would exact from their servants a behaviour which they themselves don't practise, will be but ill observed. And that child, who discovers great excesses and errors in his parents, will be found to be less profited by their good precepts, than prejudiced by their bad examples. Excessive fondness this hour, violent passions, and perhaps execrations, the next; unguarded jests, an admiration of fashionable vanities, rash censures, are perhaps the best that the child sees in, or hears from, those who are most concerned to inculcate good precepts into his mind. And where it is so, a home education is not by any means, surely, to be chosen.

Having thus, as well as my slender abilities will permit, presumed to deliver my opinion upon three great points, viz., The qualifications of a tutor; the necessity of having an eye to the morals of servants; and the example of parents (all which, being taken care of, will give a preference, as I imagine, to a home education); permit me, dear sir, to speak a little further to a point that I have already touched upon.

It is that of emulation; which I humbly conceive to be of great efficacy to lead children on in their duties and studies. And how, dear sir, shall this advantage be procured for a young master who has no school-fellows, and who has no example to follow but that of his tutor, whom he cannot, from the disparity of years, and other circumstances, without pain (because of this disparity), think of emulating? And this, I conceive, is a very great advantage to such a school education, as I mentioned in my former letter,* where there are no more scholars taken in than the master can with ease and pleasure instruct.

But one way, in my humble opinion, is left to answer this objection, and still preserve the reason for the preference which Mr. Locke gives to a home education; and that is, what I formerly hinted to you, dear sir,† to take + See p. 153.

* See p. 309.

into your family the child of some honest neighbour of but middling circumstances, and like age of your own, but who should give apparent indications of his natural promptitude, ingenuous temper, obliging behaviour, and good manners; and to let him go hand-in-hand with yours in his several studies and lessons under the same tutor.

This child would be sensible of the benefit, as well as of the distinction he received, and consequently of what was expected from him, and would double his diligence, and exert all his good qualities, which would inspire the young gentleman with the wished-for emulation; and, as I imagine, would be so promotive of his learning, that it would greatly compensate the tutor for his pains with the additional scholar; for the young gentleman would be ashamed to be outdone by one of like years and stature with himself. And little rewards might be proposed to the greatest proficient, in order to heighten the emulation.

Then, sir, permit me to add, that the generosity of such a method, to a gentleman of your fortune and beneficent mind, would be its own reward, were there no other benefit to be received from it.

Moreover, such an ingenious youth might, by his good morals and industry, hereafter be of service in some place of trust in the family; or it would be easy for a gentleman of your interest in the world, if such a thing offered not, to provide for the youth in the navy, in some of the public offices, or among your private friends.—If he proved faulty in his morals, his dismission would be in your own power, and would be punishment enough.

But if, on the other hand, he proved a sober and hopeful youth, such a one would make an excellent companion for your Billy in riper years; as he would be, in a manner, a corroborator of his morals; for as his circumstances would not support him in any extravagance, so those circumstances would be a check upon his inclinations; and this being seconded by the hopes of future preferment from your favour and interest, which he could not expect but upon the terms of his perseverance in virtue, he would